Why i love thee

Because you never do things the way it is usually done, hence bringing a smile on my lips and a little dance for my spirit. 

Becuase you are free like a wind and nothing can bind you, well except your own weight or ur laziness ofcourse :P 

Because you always have stories to tell, opinions to give and people to talk about. 

Because you have the sexiest lips .

Because you can make me cry and be miserable. 

Because you can snatch away my friends and make them yours :P 

Because you love life ..

And now that I have written so nice words about you, you need to give me hints about my surprise gift, else I will write why do I hate thee. Well, I would write that anyways :P 

For my boy !!

This one is for my boy. The boy who is my best friend, confidante, fun mate, support system, guide and my love. Yes, my love. Something we both shy away from saying. We rather refer to each other as best friends, which we are. I because of the embarassment and he because of the fact that he does not believe in romantic relationship.

I had never known that I would know love in such a form. Something which like sunlight. nurtures you everyday, becomes the core of your living. Something which just flows alongside your life and soaks you to the core just when you need it. Something which becomes life itself. I have seen passion. I have known passion. And I believe in passion. And I believe that lucky are those who get to experience it. (My boy says he is unlucky coz he never got to experience it, though I don't agree with him :) ). But I also believe that luckier are those who know and get love as I have known and got it. This kind of love is just so much rarer. There is so much that I have to thank you for, dear :). And i love and admire you so much more than I ever tell.

There have been much better pictures of us taken at our engagement. But this one is special to me. This is the only one which had captured the moment when we both had truly connected. The rest of the ceremony I don't remember much. It had all passed in a haze. I saw some videos later and realised that you had perhaps enjoyed much more than I did. I was too tense to enjoy it, or even observe it. Strangely I din't even remember how the ring ceremony had happened. Its only after I saw the videos that I remembered some of the stuff. :) . The fact that there ws a confusion on where who would stand. The confusion over who is supposed to wear the ring first. The fact that i has asked my mami "kisko ring pehnana hai pehle". That your shoe had got stolen. Nothing. All i remember are the things that I spoke to you. The fact that you had made me wear the ring ulta and had offered to straighten it afterwards. :) . And somehow the function meant very little for me. It was a custom that I followed true. I was happy seeing everyone happy true. The pics and videos intruiged me later true. But as a day, as an event it had mattered so little for my feelings. What mattered was that I was able to meet your parents( This time for a longer duration ..lol). That I was able to connect with Didi and Pihu. That the next day, when I came to the hotel to see Didi off, and you were the first person I saw, and you didn't pay me attention and went out of the room for work, it felt fine. It felt like everyday. Like we were a couple. That when after dropping Didi when i went off, when you had got down to get to hotel, and I turned back from the car, you were still looking. :) .

I know at times you feel I take you for granted. Which is true. At times I do take you for granted. Like sometimes I take the sunshine for granted. But I still know in my bones that you make the core of my life. There was a quote in Boston Legal by Allan Shore - "In every relationship there is one who loves more" . I had thought a lot about it. And I know in our case, its you. I have wondered why is that. Because you are the person who is more loveable. You are the person who makes friends whereever you go. You are the person whom everyone comes for advise or a dash of fun. You are the one who has the capability to handle every situation perfectly. You are the one with the most courage, truth and understanding. You are the one who is loved more. And yet in our case it is you who loves more. :). If I sit down and think, I perhaps cannot even find the reasons for being loved like this. :) .

There are a lot of things I cannot thank God enough for. You, dear boy, are quite on the top of the list. :) . Though coming to think of it, you might actually hate this post for the amount of mushiness it contains :D

India Vs Pak

Enough has been said about the issue already. I just want to add my two cents to it.

1. Its ENOUGH. We are tired of listening the constant rant about PAKISTAN. Tired of every news column realted to terror attacks having the P- word. Comeon , give us something else. We, the people of India rely on INDIAN govt, not PAKISTANI Goverment. Give us a five point rule, a few definite steps, something that makes us believe that you are doing something deifinite about dealing with terrorisms. Something that is not just a stupid political battle for the chair and not just sitting and waiting on your ass for the world ( aka US) to do something about it.

2. We do not want WAR. We do not hate Paksitanis. We do not want our young soldiers to die just because of your political games. We do not want our much needed money wasted on the war which is not gonna solve anything and will probably lead to an increase in terrorism. Why do you not think of investing a portion of your war funds into buying better security equipments, building better infrastructure, providing better training to the security forces and ofcourse building a better intelligence system. Because its harder than just ranting about Pakistan?

3. Are there any plans to curb the rising fanatical groups in India ? Did you get any cues when the terrorists said that they were avenging the demolition of Babri Masjid etc etc. No, do not pretend or even think that these are not the real issues and the terrorists just wanted to affect our economy.
I was raged at the thought of my city burning, and listening to the sorrows of poor innocent people victimised at the hands of those terrrorists. I was angered. I was desperate. I was hopeless and enraged. I wanted to make all the so called mujahideens stand in one line and put bullets in their chest. And I hadnt even lost a dear one or lost my life long savings or business. It is not difficult to lose yourself to anger or injustice. Its not THAT difficult to become a terrorist.

Please take some steps to follow the secularism that India stands for. The RSS and Vishwa Hindu Parishad which were the obvious culprits in Babri Masjid Demolition have not yet been punished. They still maintain close ties with the second most powerful political party in India. The leaders still issue blasphemous and arsenic statements.
Close on the heels is the Godhra violence. Unabashedly endorsed by the local goverment. Muslim families still struggling to get justice - and seeing the culprits get away with it slowly. The leader Narendra Modi still reigning the government. And yes the Supreme Court has recently said that there is not going to be any CBI enquiry in the Malegaon blast ( Not that it would have helped much, still). WTF. There are enough causes for Indian muslims to be angry. To claim that they are facing injustice. Do not take it too far. Take measures to stop it before the whole of SECULAR India starts burning under the strain of the various fanatic groups. (And no, I do not mean just the Hindu fanatics, I mean EVERY fanatic group) Take strict measures against ANYONE and EVERYONE who tries to take laws in his hands in the name of religion.

And also, I am proud of the way, Indian Muslims have responded. But I have yet to come across a Hindu group saying that Indian Muslims are our brothers/sisters. And that terrroism has no religion. And that lets not target Islam as a religion.

Lets breed some more tolerance in our society. Lets show our children some more videos of Hindu Mulsim Sikh Isai , hum sab hain bhai bhai - videos. Lets make some serials where different communities are friendly and stand united for their own rights. Lets have some more chapters in the school books about harmony and humanity. About the greatness of all religions. About helping the fellow men inspite of their caste/color/creed/religion.

Its not time for war. Its time for solidarity and tolerance. Lets build our Fort strong. Lets guard our country stronger. But lets also inculcate peace inside it. Lets stand united. For there are enemies not just outside, but inside too. Do not let anything divide us. Lets not blame each other and kill each other any more. Amen.

The home I desire

The things I want to have in my home...

Night walks

Gossip and chatter

Fights and laughter

Ludo and card games

Sunday picnics/movie plans

Maggy/pani puri parties with friends

Exchange of dishes with neighbours

A swing

Flower pots

Colorful cushions

A large wall sized mirror

Bean bags

Chatter with cleaning maids

Late night horror movie sittings

And my family ..

Its the place you are at ..

IN or OUT
Sometimes things look much worse from outside.


When you are in and a part of the system, they look much more efficient, clean and most important - honest. You tend to understand and empathise with the inefficiencies and their causes.

Half a day makes a difference.

Terrorism Vs Corruption

While waiting for my turn in a Vodafone centre, I came across an edition of Outlook/ India today which covered the Bihar Flood havoc. Reading the stories of the affected families made me cringe. 25 Lakh people affected . A number which I was aware of. But suddenly few of these numbers had faces now. I knew how many family members they had lost, how many days their children had to go hungry before getting one piece of bread, how many square inches they had got for the whole family in the relief camp. And of course of the governments inability to deal with it.

The vastness of it all leaves me wishing - if only there were not a bunch of inefficient, money hungry officials in power. If only the culprits were given such a punishment, that in future any official would think thousands of times before putting monetary benefit over his job. But knowing Indian politics and our judiciary system, that is definitely not gonna happen. The media has already moved beyond. The officials will probably have to give some testimonials to some bloody commitees, and they will then go for a trip to switzerland (from the money that they have made out of it ) to cool down. Leaving the 25 lakhs people struggling for a lifetime to build what they have lost. And well, sometimes not even a life time is enough. 25 Lakh people.

And I could not help but compare that number to the number of people who have been affected by terrorism in our country. Are the numbers even close? No, do not get me wrong -I am all for the fight against terrorism - in spirit if not in action. But what about corruption? What about the people who had sworn to serve the people, now killing the people- through their greed and inefficiency. They are not even fighting for any cause, any jihad. They are doing that perhaps just for a bigger car, a bigger house or a foreign trip. After the Delhi incident, new laws are being brought in for the terrorists. People from everywhere are writing editorial columns about terrorism. How about a couple of laws for corruption ? For not doing your work ? How about few of the top bureaucrats speaking against the system ? But then corruption perhaps does not make that good a story as terrorism. And well, it definitely does not help India become better friends with U.S.

So what if the number was 25 Lakhs !!

Some me-analysis .. :P

People often crave to get back to their childhood. I dont. Not that I dont look back and muse at the all the kiddishness and innocence. But if I had to chose between childhood and this phase of my life, I would chose this one. :). That is because I like being independednt. Infact I have a strange kind of NEED to be independedent. I have to be financially independent. As well as, I have to have the independece of planning my evenings. (The lack of the second kind of independence is what made me hate my job :P. )

My friend says he pities my to-be-husband. I say LOL. :P