Sleep Trained ..
Ever heard of the word ?? I heard it today .. In a momma's blog. Where she goes on to describe how children don't know how to put themselves to sleep. And in the first few months of childhood, he gets the clue when he/she is swayed in the arms , or stroked mildly and the likes. After a few months, u need to get him sleep trained - to let him realise when is the time to sleep and teach him to put himself to sleep.
So, this is how it is done. The child is put in the bed when its time to sleep. The lights switched off and he is left. The first day the child cries his heart out. After some time , the mommy comes and picks him up, put him down again, child cries again, momma picks again - this time after a longer time duration. It goes on this way. Finally the child gets tired and sleeps. The second day, child sleeps earlier. And this is repeated daily. Slowly the child begins to understand his sleep timings, and that no matter what, he has to sleep by himself. He has to hold himself and go to sleep. And voila ! the child is sleep trained. After some time u just need to put him in his cot and switch off the light ..
I wonder if this is the case in relationships. Do we teach each other to be emotionally trained similarly ... To the point that u just need to switch of the light and leave the room, and the other person knows that its time to stop crying and hold himself and his emotions !!
2 comments:
well, it might so be the case. things after certain point, do get repetitive. but when u stop crying coz ur partner has switched off the light, it's the indication that u have had enough. it's not for habit, but it's a disapproval of whiny behaviour. as i think, the silent anger is almost more harmful than the bursting one. and this is the silent way to speak things. totally my thinking. nice thought by the way. i never tried to think it this way.
:) .. Ummm , well , i had used the "switching off light and going out" metaphorically. In a broader sense, it meant becoming unavailable.
Dissaproval of whiny behaviour .. ummm , yeah, maybe sometimes. But i have noticed that this generally happens in many relationships when u live very close to each other. U kinna start taking things for granted and overlooking or ignoring some stuff .. Sometimes without even realizing ..
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